Yerushalmi Ketubot 7:5 ירושלמי כתובות ז׳:ה׳

MISHNAH: ⁴⁶The entire Mishnah is explained in the Halakhah. If somebody causes a vow of his wife that she should not pay condolence visits or go to weddings has to divorce her and pay the ketubah. But if he argues because of another reason, he is in his rights. If he said to her you should tell X what I said to you⁴⁷This is the text in the Yerushalmi and one Babli mss. In all other Talmud or Mishnah mss.: “What you said to me or what I said to you” (text in the Halakhah) or “what I said to you or you said to me”. or that she should fill [vessels] and pour them out on garbage heaps, he has to divorce her and pay the ketubah.

HALAKHAH: “If somebody causes a vow of his wife that she should not pay condolence visits,” etc. ⁴⁸In the Babli, 72a, and Tosephta 7:4: “fine and coarse sieves and portable ovens.””If he made her vow not to lend out fine and coarse sieves, he shall divorce her and pay the ketubah, since he gives her a bad reputation among her [female] neighbors. And so if she made a vow not to lend out fine and coarse sieves, she should leave without ketubah since she gives him a bad reputation among his [male] neighbors.” ⁴⁹Babli, 72a, In Tosephta 7:5: She will die and nobody will care.”If he made her vow not to pay condolence visits or go to weddings, he shall divorce her and pay the ketubah, since tomorrow a relative of hers will die and nobody will take notice of her. And so if she made a vow not to pay condolence visits or go to weddings, she should leave without ketubah since tomorrow a relative of his will die and nobody will take notice of him.” ⁵⁰Similar but slightly different texts in Babli, 72a, and Tosephta 7:6 (Eccl. 7:6).”Rebbi Meïr is saying in the name of his teacher Rebbi Aqiba: ‘It is better to pay condolence visits than to go to a wedding since the former is the end of every human, and the living should take notice.’ Why does the verse say, ‘and the living should take notice’? But do so they shall: eulogize so they should eulogize, bury so they should bury, accompany⁵¹Accompany the coffin to the cemetery. so they should accompany.”

“If he argues because of another reason, he is in his rights,” because of bad reputation⁵²If he objects only to certain visits where his wife is likely to meet persons of bad reputation who might seduce her..

“If he said to her I require that you tell Mr. X what you said to me,” alone, “or I said to you”, alone⁵³Private matters at the time of sex play; Tosephta 7:6. The formulation in the Babli 72a, “shameful matters” is ambiguous., “or that she should fill [vessels] and pour them out on garbage heaps, he has to divorce her and pay the ketubah.⁵⁴In the Tosephta: Because he does not treat her following the laws of Moses and Israel. The formula for the preliminary marriage is that the woman shall be married to the man “following the laws of Moses and Israel.”” There⁵⁵Babli 72a in the name of Samuel., they say, like Er’s action⁵⁶Which in Jewish tradition was identical to Onan’s sin. He requires her to take contraceptive action; Gen.38:7,9. Cf. Gen. rabba 85(5) where the expression is: He ploughed in the gardens and poured out on the garbage heaps., but the rabbis here say, senseless things⁵⁷In the words of the Babli, 72a, if she pours water out on the garbage heap “her neighbors would consider her insane.”.